Written by Desmore Samios – Motivational Speaker, Voice-Artist and Host of The Desmore Chats With Podcast. www.desmoremedia.com
My first introduction to creating a clear vision for myself was around 10 years old. Growing up in Bonteheuwel in Cape Town, there were so many negative names by which my neighbourhood was referred to by people who knew where I had grown up ((personally I wish the word disadvantaged community would be replaced with a more positive association)). I had seen first hand many of the challenges people are faced with on a daily basis. Some of these challenges had a life changing impact on how people navigated their way through life to survive and thrive in the toughest territory. My mum was and is my greatest inspiration, she worked hard to give both my brother and I the best she could. My mum worked as a machinist in a factory, she was determined to give her children the best she could. My grandpa too had a mammoth role in my life, he become my mentor from a young age and inspired me to always do better. He reminded me daily to spread my wings and fly, dream as big as I can and challenge myself always.
Through observation and studying behaviours based on my surroundings I was determined to become the captain of my ship and the master of my fate. I would look at my surroundings and ask myself this one question “How can I do things differently?” I was determined to focus on an outcome that encouraged my growth in life. I did not want to become another statistic. I love proving to myself that I can achieve anything I set my mind to and I love proving people wrong (I love a challenge). I don’t believe that anyone has the power to determine your future or destiny; you have the power to choose how you want to navigate your journey. You and only you alone have the power to create a better outcome for yourself.
I remember so clearly around 10 years old writing down 10 goals I wanted to achieve in my life by the age of 30. I thought about what I wanted and how I was going make better choices for myself that was going to encourage me to achieve my goals. I wrote down my goals on a piece of paper and I dreamt as big as I could. Every night before bed I would read my goals, visualise my goals playing like a movie in my mind all coming true (I was directing my own movie and writing my own script). I would fold my paper and stick it under my pillow so I would dream about my goals. The reality outside in the real world was so different to the one I wanted to create for myself in my mind. I understood that dreaming alone, wishing and hoping was not enough to cement my future goals. I had to work hard, have faith, and become extremely focused and determined in achieving my goals. To the point that I was living, breathing and spending every waking moment living my goals in the choices I made.
Every day I would think about how I could make little changes that would one-day pioneer different outcomes. Well I am 36 years old (2018) and all my goals and dreams had come true. I could pinch myself! I have learnt that you have the power to create the life you want for yourself. So often you will find yourself in environments that are not supportive of your vision for your life. Remember that no one knows you like you do, you know what you are made of, you know your desires, goals and vision for your life, don’t let anybody take that away from you.