Written by Desmore Samios, host of The Desmore Chats With Podcast.
So much change! Our red feature wall is going (our apartment is being repainted), Callum left for a four day school camp, hubby and I are going away for our first four day breakaway in ten years. Our little princess Katie is at doggy day care and she is so well cared for. Thank you Cisy for loving our animals, love seeing the love you have for our pets. Not to mention my little man is off to High School next year.
I remember coming home with Callum and feeling a sense of excitement and feeling nervous, so much to learn. I moved from Cape Town, South Africa, planning a wedding and found out I was pregnant all in the same year. What a year it was. There were times when I would call my mother with questions about motherhood and how to navigate my way through the unknown. My husband was a great source of comfort and support and continues to be my rock 15 years later. I must admit at times the changes were so overwhelming as they had come all at once. Settling into a new country, having a baby, getting married, going through the visa process and building my career. I remember at times feeling isolated and alone, we take for granted our support system and when moving to another city or country we have to start rebuilding our support systems and networks all over again. I thought by doing it all and not asking for help and support I would be just fine. The truth of the matter is by trying to do it all and have all your ducks in a row 24/7, you become afraid to ask for help. We think that if we ask for help and assistance we are seen as weak, vulnerable and we feel like the superhero cape can’t be removed without feeling like a we are not juggling all the balls perfectly.
These days I have amazing friends who I call my family away from home. I speak with my mum on Sundays, my friend back home and I have learnt that having it all is relative to each and every individual. I have learnt that change is growth and when we continue to learn and grow we tap into our human potential. In the midst of change there is always something we can take away from the experience. Change is part and parcel of life and we can’t dodge it, life has many seasons and no season will ever be the same, our cycle will remain, and every cycle has a beginning and end. The most important part is in the middle. I had moved from South Africa in 2007 and we are now in 2019, so much has happened in my life and I am so grateful for every single experience. I continue to push myself, to follow my inner compass and connect with my human potential. I believe that we have the power to create our path with the choices we make. We are stronger than we think and we have the ability to become the captain of our ship.