Written by Desmore Samios www.desmoremedia.com
For as long as I can remember I have always believed in a sacred practice and that is learning, growing and experiencing life to the fullest. I am always listening to audio books, podcasts, reading material, exploring, experiencing and having deep and meaningful conversations with like-minded people. The audio book I am currently listening to is by Canna Campbell called Mindful Money.
Growing up my mother inspired me greatly with her practical approach to working with money. My mother was a machinist working in a shoe factory. My mother raised both my brother and I singlehandedly, she did an incredible job, I am so proud of her. I remember my mother sitting with a piece of paper and working out where every rand would go. I have never seen anyone so sincerely grateful for their income. My mother would always mention to me how blessed she felt and she always had more than enough left over, it was a divine opportunity witnessing my mother in her sheer delight and abundant heart. My mother always believed in spending within her budget, she never owned a credit card, my mother has since retired and to this day, hasn’t owned a credit card.
I remember so clearly my mother saying to me continuously, if you can’t make the best and be thankful for a little, you will never be grateful with a lot, as you will never have enough. She was always genuinely content with what she had, and my mother always had spare left over to help others. Her blessings were returned tenfold as I would see unexpected acts of kindness returned to her. She was so joyful and abundantly happy when random acts of kindness showed up.
I have learnt so much about finances from my mother. My first encounter with earning money was around sixteen years old. I remember working weekends at a retail store in Grade ten, with my first earnings I opened my first bank account at eighteen. I saved up for my certificate courses at Damelin, purchased my first car, and continued to work in various job roles, eventually saving up for my Diploma course. For me earning money is all about being responsible for your own life and accountable for your own financial choices. Our financial goals are all very singular to our vision for our lives and how we define financial success.
In my own personal journey I have also lacked financial confidence at times during my move to Australia twelve years ago from South Africa, whilst starting over in my new environment. I remember my self-esteem and self-worth taking a mammoth toll as I had to redefine myself in a new country and navigating my way through my visa process. The journey was exciting, exhilarating and exhausting at times. I was twenty-three years old at the time, I got married and had a baby, so much had happened all at once (I would like to thank my husband who I have known for almost seventeen years now, thank you for always standing by me, I am so grateful for our family).
At times I felt overwhelmed navigating this path, I had to rely on my mindset, attitude, resilience and my relationship with myself to pull me out of my negative thought forms and limiting belief systems that didn’t serve my growth. I am extremely grateful that I am always looking at growth as a way to move forward. Some might call me stubborn or determined (might be the Taurus bull within me) but at times when I have felt like giving up, my determination and resilience had kept me going and focused on solutions not problems.
I am always looking at opportunities that would expand my horizons, personal growth and help me level up my consciousness and awareness. In the process of building my career in Australia I am not going to sugar coat the truth, I had come across my fair share of highs and lows. I have dealt with rejection as all of us do, I have navigated a path that was so unfamiliar to me and I had to learn a new course of action in order to achieve my goals. I believe heart and soul that failures, taking risks, set backs and challenges make us stronger, giving us a solid foundation to stand upon. We don’t know what we are truly capable of when we live in a safe comfort zone, as the saying goes, “A ship is safe in the harbour but that is not what it is buid for.” I often take the road that scares me the most, that seems impossible to climb. I am intrigued by exploring my soul’s journey, not the external narratives on what is possible but my own internal definition of what I can achieve for my own personal growth.
Whether it be finances, relationships, health, career, starting over again or feeling afraid of the unknown. I have learnt that it’s never too late to learn, grow and set new goals for yourself. Don’t be afraid to put your hand up and say I don’t have all the answers. Our journey in my opinion is all about unfolding at every stage, phase and season of our lives. Just as we have mastered one mountain peak, in order to grow we might have to climb another and learn once again as we expand, push ourselves, and challenge our growth patterns and behaviours.
I want you to know that you are enough, start with a sacred phrase “I am enough” then follow with “I am doing the best I can” be kind to yourself. I want you to give yourself permission to know that wherever you are in your journey, you are doing the best that you can and with clarity, awareness and growth you can embark on an even better journey for yourself. You are limitless, you are capable and you have what it takes to turn any situation into one of growth, lessons learnt and expansion.