Written by Desmore Samios, Host of The Desmore Chats With Podast, Speaker, New Media Trainer and Content Creator. www.desmoremedia.com
I grew up in a suburb in Cape Town called Bonteheuwel on the Cape Flats. Our suburb is best described using words such as lower socioeconomic suburb and disadvantaged community, if only I had a magic wand to erase these limiting stereotypes. As a little girl I was always curious about life and had always learnt from my external environment and behaviours. My favourite thing was watching and studying people and then asking questions around our reality. Is our reality the beginning and end all of our journey? Or if we believed that our lives could be so much greater, bigger and filled with pure potential then do we have the power to create it. I was so curious, I would always challenge my thoughts, beliefs and mindset. I knew instinctively that I was destined for a life of pure splendour, pure potential and endless possibility. I just didn’t know how it was going to unfold, if only I had a crystal ball back then.
I would close my eyes as a little 10-year-old girl and imagine my future. I would create an internal image so vividly and so clearly that I would manipulate my mind into thinking that my internal reality was the reality I was living in the real world. Truth be told I had seen first-hand the struggles and hardships people had faced growing up. I believed that at ten years old that my choices and my decision making would impact my future self. I wrote down on a piece of paper “ten things I had wanted to achieve by thirty” from my career, to visualising my husband, my son, moving from Cape Town and living a life that I wanted to live for myself. I knew that if I created my thought-based reality then every decision and choice I made in the real world would have to support my vision. I knew that if I had focused on my vision, believed in myself and drowned out all of the external noise around me I could achieve anything. I was extremely lucky that I knew who I was in this world from a very young age and I knew that my gut instincts served as my compass leading and guiding me all the way. By trusting my inner voice, backing myself and not giving up on my vision I felt like I was firing on all cylinders. Most importantly I believed that I was worth the effort.
I was always fascinated by why some would achieve their own definition of success and others are in constant struggle with themselves. I was extremely curious to investigate this notion for myself. So, I would study people who have achieved their own definition of success and I would adopt their behaviours by watching, observing and studying them. I knew that a dream was merely a dream and without any intentional action it would merely be a distant dream, never a reality. When asked what I wanted to do with my life, I always felt a strong pull towards using my voice to create a positive change in my space and creating a platform to do so. Whilst attending high school I worked a part time job, then saved my money. Why did I save my money I knew that the greatest investment in achieving my goals was “me” I am my greatest asset. So, I did short certificate courses then studied towards my Public Relations Diploma. I wanted to learn how to create impactful platforms, how to construct a message and how to deliver a message. My studies have helped me understand the core principles but I had adopted these principles and made it my own.
I believe that true success is measured not by what the world expects from you but what your personal definition of success is and “why” it matters. If you are not anchored in who are, you will merely become lost in a world of external expectations, superficial narratives and noise. I knew back then and I know now that no person on this planet earth can create my reality and shape my future. I believe that we are the result of our decisions and choices. We have the power to create our own reality in the real world if we believe that we are worth it. A thought is merely a thought until you put those incredible purposeful thoughts in action.
Don’t settle for less than your pure potential, step into your power and become the visionary for your own life.